Legacy
I wonder what the legacy will be that I will leave behind. I wonder how it is that I will be remembered by my loved ones. I
know my child will grow up and have some things that she would have liked to experience differently.
Many men look back on their childhood with mixed feelings about their parents. For men, One of the most important
relationship in the world is with our fathers. They teach us how to be men and responsible adults. Our fathers teach
us how to interact with our marital partners and our children. A struggle in this relationship is to sort out what it is we
would like to keep from this experience, what we would like to give back and what we would like to add to our
experience as fathers.
My work is with men who have issues with domestic violence, substance abuse and a history of learned behaviors that
have been defense mechanism in these challenging families. Some of them are able to reflect back on what they have
learned in their families and make changes accordingly. Some have continued to repeat the behaviors until someone
holds them accountable (the legal system, protective services, divorce issues, etc.) and tells them they need to
change or else…,
When we look around us at the family we live with, we can see that we are all a reflection of each other. Are you
comfortable with the legacy you are guiding your children with? Can you live with your child experiencing painful
consequences based on what you have shown them as normal? Or are you MAN enough to be accountable? Are you
man enough to quit blaming others for the choices that you have made and the impact that those choices have on
your next generation?
Are You A Man?